Reasons Not To Fall In Love

I’ve always had a complicated relationship with love. When I was a child I constantly felt unloved, and that led me to not believe I would ever fall in love. Yet, I was always desperately clinging to the idea that someone would love me and it would make everything better. Then, I found love and it was one of the worst experiences of my life. Like many people, I used to see love as a goal. Now I see my career, self-development and retirement savings as goals. Love is something that may come along one day and compliment my life, or it may come around and not compliment my life and if that’s the case I can reject it. I don’t have to be in love and I don’t have to want love.

That’s why I’ve compiled a list of reasons love isn’t always great. I want people to know that “love” isn’t a reason to put up with a life you really don’t want. You’re allowed to demand more, and you’re allowed to reject love. I’m not going to expand on any of them, and if you want to you can leave me a direct message or comment.

Here they are:

1. You can fall in love with someone that is wrong for you.
2. Love can make you see a mediocre person as a great person.
3. Love can cause you to give up on your dreams, and regret it later.
4. Love can allow you to put up with being treated badly.
5. Love can bring out emotions, like jealousy and hatred, that you don’t like having.
6. Love can make you feel obligated to stay when you otherwise want to leave.
7. Love can be used as a tool for abuse.
8. You can fall in love at the wrong time.
9. It is difficult to discover who you are, while in love.
10. You can love someone who will never love you back.
11. Love can cause you to become co-dependent and unable to leave if you want to.
12. Love can ruin your friendships and relationships with your family.
13. Love can be very dull.
14. If the person you love doesn’t have similar goals, you may never realize them.
15. Love can cause you to settle for a life you never really wanted.
16. Love can blind you to what your life really is.
17. People may change after you fall in love with them.
18. Love can cause you to excuse bad behavior in your partner.
19. Love can change you for worse.
20. Love can be based on a lie.